Private One-Couple-Only Retreats
Relationships are among the top key contributors toward how people ultimately value and lives their lives. We hear it all the time that truly healthy relationships are founded upon those whom are emotionally complete as individuals and thus offer a priceless complement to one another. It is absolutely true, but why is it that often times there just seems to be something missing?
In 1995, Consumer Reports put out a report on the effectiveness of psychotherapy and the lowest scores went to marriage counselors as compared to other treatment providers. If you have ever gone to a marriage counseling session and felt as if you were describing the water to them while you were drowning in it, and they were calling it success, well, read on. We have a solution for you…
You see, it is not surprising that traditional means of helping a relationship in a therapy session are quite challenging. Here are some primary reasons why relationship counseling & therapy often misses the mark of effectiveness:
- The brain is wired to be right, not be happy or effective
- We have contradictory “selves” that say one thing and do another, and this is fundamentally “normal”
Neuroscience has called this phenomenon “modularity of mind.” No need to feel like you are crazy, you are not.
- We rarely need to go to the past to solve our problems. We need solutions in the present to drive a new future for us
- We typically speak rationally and say things we know we should believe are true when we are in those counseling sessions. Most therapists validate that, leaving you thinking you are changing, and then you return home and as always, things go back to the way things always were
- 9 to 1 odds against you that you will actually change your behavior in situations where it is life and death (Deutschmann, 2005). If this is true, a more skillful approach in non-life and death situations is needed; one that takes the brain and its irrationality into consideration to truly get what you want.
Since the reality is that the world of behavior change is trickier than counseling sessions tend to make it seem, a radical new approach is needed; a genuine, long-lasting solution of great depth & weight! Remember, the objective is more than to simply correct the wrongs within a relationship, the objective it to redefine this loving relationship in a way that sets the stage for long-term peace, harmony, affection and mutual growth.
Join Kevin J. Fleming, PhD, President/Owner/Founder of Grey Matters International, Inc. for a couples and marriage retreat experience or an in-home program that is one of kind! What is offered is cutting edge assessment technology, master facilitation, profound insight and even a bit of humor that will surprise you and your defenses. You pick the location or utilize one of our many exclusive worldwide couples retreats…customizing your experience is the priority number #1.
Whether you’ve tried therapy & counseling with no success or are interested in making true change that occurs on a deeper long-term level, Dr. Fleming and Grey Matters International are here to help you completely redefine your loving relationship…call us 7 days a week at (877) 606-6161 or fill out our short contact form.
WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT DR. FLEMING
“How can you put into words a miraculous change, and make it sound as believable as it is?
As I sat in church the other day and listened to the Pastor deliver a sermon about grief and the five stages of grief, I thought of my personal relationship. The five stages are as follows: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. All five stages of grief are normal as long as you don’t get stuck too long in any particular stage. As I thought of my personal relationship, I realized I had indeed been grieving the loss of a loving relationship and had moved through the first three stages and got stuck in the fourth; depression. That’s where I was when I first met Kevin Fleming; stuck in a seemingly hopeless state of “giving up”. I had lost my voice, my joy and my will. After the first day of neuro tech work with Doc Fleming, my emotions were all over the place. On a long walk afterwards, I laughed, cried, smiled and felt pure joy for the first time in a long while. Each following session proved to be moving me in the right direction of calm and well-being. Almost two weeks later and I cannot explain how different I feel. I have joy and confidence. I feel calm and at the same time a renewed sense of energy. I finally feel truly alive for the first time in a very long time! If you or someone you know are “stuck” where they don’t want to be, I highly recommend that you look into this amazing process and get free of whatever is holding you back from a life of joy. I cannot thank Kevin Fleming enough for his research in the neuro tech field and his kind and compassionate approach to healing.”
“Thank you for giving my marriage & family a 2nd chance at happiness & peace. I can only imagine where we would be at this point if we did not acquire your help. Your insight, support and knowledge have been invaluable over the past 6 months. I enjoyed our time working together…”
“Kevin Fleming is an amazing teacher of life. My husband and I have been married for 27 years and felt disconnected from eachother. In a very short time,Dr. Fleming was able to bring out our true selves to help us see our communication breakdowns in such a wise, supportive way without us feeling “therapatized” He is a master at listening between the lines.He has such a cool, relatable, trusting vibe that makes it so easy to receive his help and wisdom. No BS in a good way! If your relationship isnt what you want it to be, you owe to yourselves to talk to him. We have undone years of unproductive communication with his support that I feel could have never been done with traditional therapy. We tried and didn’t receive any where near the insight and tools that Dr. Kevin was able to give us. Whether your relationship is new or old, if you feel you have small or big problems, Dr. Kevin can help you and it will be life changing for sure!”
– Tim and Kathy Joseph
“Thank you Dr Fleming! It has been a pleasure working with you. You provided me great advice, challenged my way of thinking and helped save my marriage.”
– Brian Smith
“Our time with Dr. Fleming in Jackson Hole was not only full of vigor and beauty all around us, but full of wisdom…..his coaching saved our marriage. Plain and simple. His style is humorous yet warm and deliberate in strategy. No one is more passionate to make change happen then this guy!”
– Jim and Monica Bucci
Oklahoma City, OK
“Kevin is like a ginsu knife and he is able to get to the heart of the issues very quickly…with almost psychic abilities…Kevin is able to quickly get to the source of conflicts and outline a sensible and practical plan for couples to use to try and make progress to resolve their problems. He is very direct and results focused. He is a pleasure to work with.”
– John and Marty,
“My husband and I were fortunate to be able to immerse ourselves in an intensive couple’s weekend with Dr. Kevin Fleming. Knowing my husband as I do, I knew that months of “traditional” couple’s therapy would be difficult and tedious for him. Dr. Fleming’s “cut to the chase, let’s be honest here” style was a perfect fit for my husband, and for myself. He provided us with much needed insight into our own behaviors and contributions to our relationship using standardized profiles and assessments, his own wisdom, and healthy doses of common sense. Dr. Fleming created a space within which we could feel safe and supported in voicing our fears, our frustrations, and expectations regarding our marriage and it’s future. We left the weekend with a higher understanding of each other, ourselves and our relationship, equipped with knowledge and tools to guide us forward from that point. It was one of the best investments in our lives that we have made to date! Thank you, Dr. Kevin, for all that you are and all that you do.”
– Ellen Noble